Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Bungalows

On Saturday I visited "Wonderland Express" at the Chicago Botanic Gardens. Although the name sounds like it's some sort of cheezy Christmas event for children, it is actually amazing. Using only natural elements such as wood, gourds, nuts, and bark they constructed incredible reproductions of Chicago sights, arranged them in beautiful flower strewn settings, artistically included umpteen model trains, and even provided very real looking - but not wet or cold - snow! It was delightful!



Marina City, Wrigley Buiding and bridges over the Chicago river are not far from the "Bean" in Millennium Park. Even Northwestern University's famous arch is included!

What really fascinated me, however, was a series of Chicago style bungalows. They were included to illustrate Michelle Obama's childhood home, but I thought of my grandparents' home instead.


My grandparent's home at 79th and Kimbark on the south side was similar to the home shown on the right. Its "front" door was actually on the right side. One opened the door and faced a flight of stairs. Once on the main floor, a left turn took you into the living room. The front wall was a big bay window as you see on the right above. In front of the fire place to the right was my grandma's rocking chair. On the small table next to her chair there was always a crossword puzzle in progress along with a basket of her crocheting, also in progress. My grandpa's sturdy chair was next to the arched doorway. My images of my grandparents - especially of my grandfather - are of them sitting in those chairs. I know they got up and moved around, but in my head, they are always sitting.

Sometimes the entire left side of the living room was taken up by a huge quilting frame. Grandma's two out of the house activities were the Ladies Aide Society and her quilting society. When the individual quilt pieces had been constructed at church quilting meetings, it was time to quilt the entire bedspread. The huge pieces of cloth were attached to the wooden frame and the ladies would then sit around the frame in Grandma's living room and meticulously sew the batting between the top piece work and the bottom material as they gossiped. The frame would sometimes sit in her living room for weeks on end.

If you turned right at the top of the entry stairs you entered the dining room. My major childhood memory is that Grandma always had a filled candy dish on the server and we were always welcome to sample. I also remember that Grandma always slipped us a few coins in this room as we prepared to leave after a visit. My own mother continued this tradition, always giving our boys a few dollars after a visit or after she attended some performance or event with them. Wonder if I'll feel compelled to do the same thing when my grandchildren visit? Is that genetic?

If you turned left after walking through the dining room, you entered the bedroom area. Straight ahead was the kitchen.

My grandparents each occupied one of the two bedrooms. Grandpa's bedroom always felt strange to me and I really don't know why. I just have a memory of lots of paper back adventure type books on his bedside table which I found somewhat titillating. Today I'm sure the overwhelming smell of cigar smoke would gag me, but that was just a normal part of their house.

For a young girl living in a new 1950's built home, Grandma's kitchen was fascinating. The sink and side board was a separate white metal piece, not attached to any counter. Her cabinets had glass fronts and seeing Grandma's glasses and plates on display always surprised me. The real wonder, however, was the ice box. Yes, Grandma had an electric refrigerator, but in the wall between the kitchen and the back porch was an amazing compartment that opened with big handles on both sides. Before she got her electric refrigerator, the ice man would come every day and put a big block of ice in the icebox from the porch side. When we ate at Grandma's and Grandpa's, we ate "normal" food, but if we just "dropped in" we would see all sorts of strange things on the kitchen table. They ate quasi German food often and enjoyed all sorts of things I considered really weird - ham hocks and pigs feet among them!

The main floor was interesting, but the basement and the attic were irresistible to this young girl. A walk up the attic stairway next to the kitchen brought us to a world of musty boxes and fascinating things to explore. Dress up fun followed. A walk downstairs was even better. At the foot of the stairs were shelves just crammed with canned fruits and vegetables that Grandma had "put up". I don't actually remember eating any of this food and I remember vague feelings of fear of botulism or other such evils, but looking at the rows of canned foods was fascinating. The coolest thing ever, however, was the coal bin! This was a separate room in the basement filled with the coal they actually used in their furnace. Just walking in this room meant being covered with coal dust and, obviously, my parents didn't want us to do that---but sometimes we were just too tempted and went in anyway.

As I think about it, at the time of my memories of my grandparents bungalow in the 1950's, they were probably younger than I am now. Grandpa did go to work as an Illinois Central engineer and enjoyed walking down the street to the tavern most evenings when I was quite young. Grandma took the streetcar to her church events and to visit family. Sears was only a block away and was often visited. In my head, however, they were really old.

After Grandpa died in the early 60's, Grandma moved to the Lutheran Home in Arlington Heights. The "home" bought their house as part of the entrance fee. By then, to use 1960's terminology, the neighborhood had "changed". Today it is part of a solid middle class, primarily black community. I imagine the kitchen has been updated several times and the musty fun-filled attic has probably been made into bedrooms. I'm sure the coal bin is long gone, along with Grandma's canning and the ice box. I wonder if the family that lives there now has any idea of the history of this bungalow?

I do know that every time I travel the "skyway" on my way to Indiana or Michigan, I crane my neck as we drive past the Sears which is still across the street from the bungalow that was such a part of my childhood. I wonder why I feel such a sentimental tie to this bungalow when the homes I've actually lived in don't have that effect?

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

Today and Yesterday

Yesterday I made chili in the crockpot. As usual, it was wonderful to realize that dinner was prepared before noon! All day long, however, a strange odor annoyed me. The cleaning lady had been here. Had she used some new cleaner or was she was drinking a particularly pungent flavor of Starbuck's coffee? Had something melted in the dryer? Were the tree lights about to burn out?

Evening came and we ate the chili. The odor dissipated.

This morning, while putting away dishes, I noticed a plastic storage box without its lid. "Strange", I thought. "I always keep my lids with their bottoms." Putting aside the lidless box, I started to put the crockery bowl back into the crockpot and saw something very strange. Instead of a silver-tone bottom, the crock pot had a bright blue surface. Yep, you guessed it, the blue plastic lid had spent ten hours yesterday nestled between the crockery and the metal heating unit! Kevin proved the merit of his college degrees, let the crock pot warm up for a half hour, and was able to peel off the then soft lid. We will live to crock again....and, most fortunately, no police or fire departments were needed! (By the way, Ken confessed to having dropped the lid in the crock pot the previous day.)

This afternoon, however, as I baked cookies I remembered a Christmas about 18 years ago when the local gendarmes did show up.

Eighteen years ago, Kevin was eight. He always loved helping me bake Christmas cookies...mostly because the dough was oh so delicious. The tree was up, the gifts wrapped, Christmas carols were playing in the background, and we were cooking together. It was picture perfect---until the doorbell rang. There stood a policeman asking if Kevin Kosnik lived here. Not yet eight year old Kevin!

Did I know about the suspicious letter that not yet eight year old Kevin had written to a classmate? Did I know that a concerned mother a few blocks away was so freaked by this suspicious letter her daughter received that she called the police to investigate?

Whaaaaaat???????????

We finally put two and two together. Eighteen years ago, we were one of the rare families that had a computer and were the owners of even rarer software designed for children: Reader Rabbit, Math Rabbit, and Writer Rabbit. These programs were pathetic by today's standards, but Kevin was quite enamored of them, especially Writer Rabbit which made it possible for a kid to write some very funny things.

Kevin thought one of the stories he wrote was so funny that, unbeknown to me, Kevin mailed it to his classmate Laura. Laura probably thought it was funny, too, but her mom sure didn't. I was truly amazed that Kevin knew how to address an envelope---a skill lacking by most of my middler school students.

The police officer had a good laugh after reminding Kevin to not send anything to this particular family in the future. As far as I know, Kevin hasn't even had a parking ticket, so I guess this first brush with the law made a big impression.

And I'm probably the only mom around who fears a visit by the police whenever I bake Christmas cookies!

Saturday, December 19, 2009

A Rosewood Christmas

Last Night Was The Rosewood Family Holiday Party. I capitalized every word in the previous sentence because the invitation we received was written that way. Must have taken the activity director hours to type!

When I arrived at 6:45 for the 7:00 event, the dining room was already filled with residents, 98% in wheelchairs, each anxiously watching the door for their family members to arrive. I was glad I had arrived early as Mom visibly relaxed when she had family! Although I tried to tell Mom about my week and show her pictures from the trip, she really couldn't focus. The upcoming party was foremost in her mind.

Between 7:00 and 8:00 we had food and entertainment. Man, it was a long hour! A pianist was the entertainment, but he was on the other side of the room and didn't have a microphone, so even those of us with decent hearing couldn't hear his commentary or music. We ate our three cheese cubes, one meatball, two sausages, four green and two red grapes, and solitary cookie and drank our mysterious sweet pink beverage mostly in silence.

Finally 8:00 arrived and so did Santa. Santa was a little on the thin side and said "Merry Christmas" with a distinct Spanish accent, but it became magical as he pulled out a specially chosen gift for each resident. The activity director called out the names: "Ekaterina Dimitriskaya: Happy Holidays", "Max Lowenthal: Happy Hannukah", "Mildred Mohrman: Merry Christmas". The gifts were distributed: Ekaterina's wrapped in snowman paper, Max's in dreidel paper, Mildred's in a Santa themed bag. Wrinkled faces erupted into smiles as they opened their gifts.

Later we found out that each staff member had adopted a resident and had specially chosen a gift for someone they cared for. Mom's gifts - a red velvet zippered bag with "naughty" written in rhinestones on one side and "nice" on the other, a candy cane themed metal storage box, and a photo album were lovingly chosen by María, her evening nurse, who knew Mom liked red and had lots of family pictures to store. María was as excited about giving this gift as Mom was about receiving it.

It didn't matter much that this Christmas party was made up of non-English speaking Russians, Hanukkah celebrating Jews, atheists, and Christians of various types. It didn't matter that the entertainment was pretty worthless and the food un-exciting. It did matter that employees were showing love to residents who are not always easy to love.

In other parts of town, extravagant parties were going on last night with elegant decorations, food, clothing, and gifts. I think, however, that the simple display of love at Rosewood was exactly what God has in mind for a Christmas party. The God born at Christmas came to love the unlovable and I think he'd be most pleased how that love was shared at Rosewood last night.

Friday, December 18, 2009

Random Thoughts From a Week in New England



This week I gave BER seminars in Maine, New Hampshire, Massachusetts and Rhode Island and, as always, learned and observed some fascinating things.

CHRISTMAS DECORATIONS New Englanders are so much more subtle about decorating for the holidays than we crass mid-westerners! In an entire week I only saw ONE inflatable Santa---though it, like most here, was deflated. Many homes simply have a single lit candle in each window and that's really quite beautiful. If there are outdoor lights, they are elegant---a single strand of white lights. It reminded me of my childhood. "Way back then" almost no one hung lights outside and we would go "to see the lights" in the rare neighborhood where people did a lot of exterior lighting. (I was still glad to get home and see all the really pretty and extensive lights all over our neighborhood!)

RHODE ISLAND On my quest to set foot in all 50 states, Rhode Island has been an enigma. I have driven through the state three times...but had never actually set foot on it. Although this seminar was billed as being in Providence, it really took place in Seakonk, MA. and I thought that once again, my feet would not have the Rhode Island experience. I was saved, however, because my program manager, Hillary, collects college t-shirts and wanted to buy one at Brown and we drove into Providence...so here's proof of my official Rhode Island venture!

The hotel we stay in in Rhode Island is affiliated with a prominent school of hospitality and is staffed by students. It is an elegant old building that some people say is haunted. I didn't see any ghosts, but felt haunted in a couple of ways. My room was on the second floor...and there's no elevator to the second floor. Great fun dragging two suitcases, a computer bag and purse up the elegant center stairway :-). The seminar room was chilly, got colder as the morning wore on, and I saw participants putting on their coats. Hillary twice was assured that they had turned up the heat, but finally was told "they" were going to go on the roof to fix something. Unfortunately, "going on the roof" meant that, in addition to shivering, we were treated to loud banging and drilling noises. What a great way to keep people interested in the seminar! A threat by Hillary to go up on the roof herself got the workers to stop the noise making and somehow they fixed the problem during lunch and the afternoon was toasty. The participants were most gracious about this whole mess. Kudos to them!

The restaurant at this hotel, however, is first class and my meal was so beautiful that I actually took a picture of it! Shrimp stuffed with crab and encased in philo dough. Note the placement of the shrimp tails!

We certainly don't eat this elegantly most days on the road!

MAINE is one of my favorite states and I was disappointed to once again be in an ordinary Holiday Inn on the west side of town away from the ocean. Hillary once again saved the day, taking an hour after the seminar to go to this beautiful sight in Port Elizabeth.


BOSTON We stayed in Waltham which is northwest of the city, so I didn't get downtown at all. We did, however, get in a huge back-up on the interstate as we drove into town from New Hampshire. The GPA gave us an alternate route on side streets which was interesting, but unbelievably slow and congested as hundreds of other people were also taking the alternate route. I love Boston, but I'm not sure I could deal with the rush hours on their narrow old highways!

PEOPLE are always interesting. At two seminars there was a person who came to my same seminar for the second time! That was really exciting to me. The person in Rhode Island was particularly fun as she excitedly told me, "Oh, I did X activity with X grade and they loved it, we did Y activity over and over again and it was terrific...." A really nice feeling for me! Of course, that joy was tempered by a few folk who wrote really nice complimentary paragraphs on their evaluation forms...and then circled 5's on the 1-7 evaluation scale! One guy in Rhode Island engaged me in a long conversation about all the Chicago sports teams and I managed to fake a knowledgeable response to his statements. When he started to talk about the Bears winning the Super Bowl back in the 90's I mentioned that I taught Jim McMahon's kids. He was just blown away by this and wanted to know every detail about those kids! Pretty funny.

ILLNESS On Tuesday night I felt something weird in my throat and by Wednesday afternoon, my throat really hurt and my voice was about gone. That was the experience I have been dreading since I began this BER gig. Fortunately, Thursday I was coughing and congested, but did have enough voice to do the seminar...albeit in a croaking way. Fortunately, Thursday night I returned home after infecting who knows how many people on the airplane!

Sunday, December 13, 2009

And again I say, Rejoice!

My favorite Bible verses, Phillippians 4: 4-7, were the New Testament lesson at church today. Verse 4 is the one I especially like, "Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, Rejoice." As I tend to grouse about things that are really not all that important, and have recently been grousing in spades about a volunteer group I'm in, it was such a breath of fresh air to hear those words again this morning.

It also reminded me of my brush with fame. When I lived in Lincoln Park in Chicago in my twenties, I sang in my church choir and there I had a solo when we sang an anthem based on this text! I was really nervous about this huge responsibility, but it actually came out OK....mostly because my "solo" consisted of the words "And again". Yep, that's it, a solo of two words. Fortunately or unfortunately, outside of my frequent "soloing" in the classroom, that was the first and last solo in a choir.

Aside from memories of my solo fame, three things I'm rejoicing about right now are...

MY I-PHONE The first reason to rejoice was that I've had AT+T cell phone plans for so long that I'm grandfathered into a really old contract plan and the monthly rate doesn't increase with the new phone. Santa made an early delivery of the actual phone and I will joyfully open the empty I-phone box on Christmas morning. What fun it has been! I've joined the texting world which has already increased communication with my offspring. On the airplane to Portland today, I could put the phone into airplane mode and listen to my I-tunes library instead of airplane noise. While waiting to get off the plane I could sit there and read my e-mail! I was able to take a picture of the Oscar Meyer weiner-mobile when it just happened to be in my neighborhood last week. I can get a list of the closest lobster restaurant near this hotel, read reviews of the establishment, and get step by step directions to arrive there. And the fun is only beginning!

MAINE In spite of spending a couple of scary hours in the Androscoggin River after a kayaking spill in 2000, I love Maine. I'm oh so hopeful that I'll see a Moose tomorrow when we drive to New Hampshire, but even if I don't, I am reveling in the clam chowder and crab cakes that I just had for dinner. I'm looking forward to having a lobster roll for lunch tomorrow. I'm delighted that the curvature of the earth makes it possible to fly to Maine in 1 1/2 hours when it takes more than two hours to fly to Boston....which is closer to Chicago. Finally, I rejoice in the fact that there are only FOUR people registered for my BER seminar tomorrow....but they didn't cancel it! I'm curious how the day will play out. It may be really fun or it could be a dud depending on what those four people are like.

HOTEL BEDS: Even this ordinary Holiday Inn has one of those wonderful pillow top mattresses and four pillows to choose from. Hurray for competition!

More from the December New England adventure tomorrow!

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Blow Up Those Decorations!


When I was a child there was an ubiquitous appliance store called Polk Brothers. Every year they gave large plastic Santas to autumn shoppers. People actually shopped at Polk Brothers simply because they'd get one of these wonderful decorations! It seemed like a Polk Bros. Santa spent the winter on just about every lawn in town. Man, they were ugly! And they didn't die! Every year, Polk Bros. Santas were dragged out of storage and put back on lawns. This recent photo shows a Polk Bros. Santa that is still alive some thirty years after Polk Bros. went out of business. It appears to need to lean again the stair railing for support, but it lives on.

More modern decorations are not so fortunate. Today, while driving to and from a friend's home, I saw deflated Christmas decoration after deflated Christmas decoration. There were dead snowmen lying on lawns. There were expired Santas. Occasional deflated grinches, football players, or Homer Simpsons joined the dead decoration brigade. Not a single inflated blow-up decoration was to be seen....just as in the above picture.

Tell me, what is festive about deflated pieces of colorful plastic lying on lawns? Am I missing something?

I did see one scene that I thought was thought-provoking, however. On one lawn there was a pile of deflated snowmen. Next door was a large wooden manger scene. Did the real meaning of Christmas finally kill off the Snowmen? Or is the ex-Sunday School teacher just too eager to read meaning into an accidental occurrence?

Meanwhile, if a snarky plastic inflated Grinch is your favorite image of Christmas, please BLOW IT UP!

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Bark Bark

My book group discussed "The Art of Racing in the Rain" by Garth Stein last night. It's a book about NASCAR racing narrated by A DOG!

Ken's comment was, "So, the dialog goes like this, huh? 'Bark, Bark, Arf, Arf, Woof, Woof'?"

Actually, no. The dog tells a sensitive, touching story about his NASCAR racer owner's family and his (the dog's) sometimes funny, sometimes heart-wrenching reactions to people during tragic events in the family. You don't have to like either racing or dogs to thoroughly enjoy this book and you might walk away, as I did, with a totally new view of our canine companions.

Our conversation, not surprisingly, veered into dog stories and, as the discussion wore on, I marveled at rather convincing stories that dogs do indeed comprehend and understand.

Our hostess is currently dogsitting. She told of this little Schnauzer's need for daily anti-anxiety medication and warned us not to say "good bye" when we left, as that word would leave the dog bereft. We were all careful to avoid the "b" word when we departed. I chuckled as this dog snuggled up on the couch next to the one person in the group who really hates dogs.....just as dogs always seem to go to Ken. The consensus was that the dogs really do sense who doesn't like them and will do all in their powers to make friends.

Becky told of her parents' dog. When her mother was dying in her Indiana home, the family gathered around her bed for prayer. The dog lay down on the floor next to the bed, covered his head with his paws, and remained in that position, silent, for hours. A few years later Becky's father was dying in a nearby hospital. Becky and her sister came home to get some sleep, but a few hours later were awakened by the dog running around crazily and barking hysterically---something this placid dog never did before or since. Sure enough, the phone shortly rang with news from the hospital.

When my god-daughter Liz told me on Monday that she is pregnant, she also told me that her dog has been the first to know about each of her pregnancies. The dog who always sleeps in the kitchen suddenly slept next to her bed. The independent dog started following her around ALL the time. The dog ate differently. With this second pregnancy, Liz hadn't even missed a period when the dog went bonkers. The dog was acting so weird that she actually took a pregnancy test. When the test was negative, she became concerned about the dog but, a few days and another pregnancy test later, she discovered the dog in fact had recognized the pregnancy before she did.

With all this positive dog conversation, I almost began to think I need to make up for a lifetime bereft of canine companionship. Then, however, Mary told of her new puppy. Mary's husband gets up an hour early every morning to give this puppy a 45 minute walk. Mary gives it another 45 minute walk in the afternoon. It's not yet trained. If it doesn't get adequate exercise, it tears the house apart. This will continue throughout the Chicago winter. I think I'm quite content to be dog-less.

Besides, Ken and I have an unusual pre-nuptial agreement. I can have either a husband or a dog. I'm keeping the husband.

But I will look at my relative's and friend's dogs with new appreciation....and wonder what they are thinking about me....and if they'll write a book about us.